I just got of the phone with Brennan… He hung up on me. He did this to prove that he only called because he had to.

I was still up doing some work when the phone rang. As Brennan no longer has school in the morning [he graduated today], I picked up the call.
I asked what was up? He replied NOTHING.
He then passed a taunting message from his brother Colin about going to jail.
I asked what’s new? He replied NOTHING.

As he graduated tonight, I would have thought he could have thought of a little something to make this call different from any of the others of the last few years. BUT NO, he is apparently still afraid to speak.

When asked why he called so late (11:30PM)? He replied “Because he had to” and then he demonstrated the point by hanging up the phone.
[Total length of this call = 1 minute 34 seconds]

Brennan’s demonstration was clearly an indication that his motive for the call was to protect his mother from sanctions for contempt of a custody order, or truer still to create more rhetoric and chaos in the courtroom.

Brennan has no idea why he hates me so much. Nor do I. Because he doesn’t.

Let’s call it what it is…. PARENTAL ALIENATION.
( from Three Types of Parental Alienators by Douglas Darnall, Ph.D. copyright 1997 )

Type Three: Obsessed Alienator

“I love my children. If the court can’t protect them from their abusive father, I will. Even though he’s never abused the children, I know it’s a matter of time. The children are frightened of their father. If they don’t want to see him, I’m not going to force them. They are old enough to make up their own minds.”

The obsessed alienator is a parent, with a cause: to align the children to his or her side and together, with the children, campaign to destroy their relationship with the targeted parent. For the campaign to work, the obsessed alienator enmeshes the children’s personalities and beliefs into their own. This is a process that takes time but one that the children, especially the young, are completely helpless to see and combat. It usually begins well before the divorce is final. The obsessed parent is angry, bitter or feels betrayed by the other parent. The problem occurs when the feelings won’t heal but instead become more intense because of being forced to continue the relationship with a person they despise because of their common parenthood. Just having to see or talk to the other parent is a reminder of the past and triggers the hate. They are trapped with nowhere to go and heal.

The characteristics of an obsessed alienator are:
– They are obsessed with destroying the children’s relationship with the targeted parent. [CHECK]

– They having succeeded in enmeshing the children’s personalities and beliefs about the other parent with their own. [CHECK]

– The children will parrot the obsessed alienator rather than express their own feelings from personal experience with the other parent. [CHECK]

– The targeted parent and often the children cannot tell you the reasons for their feelings. [CHECK]

– Their beliefs sometimes become delusional and irrational. No one, especially the court, can convince obsessed alienators that they are wrong. [CHECK]

– Anyone who tries is the enemy. [CHECK]

– They will often seek support from family members, quasi-political groups or friends that will share in their beliefs that they are victimized by the other parent and the system. The battle becomes “us against them.” [ EVERYONE ]

– The obsessed alienator’s supporters are often seen at the court hearings even though they haven’t been subpoenaed. [BARB KATE]

– They have an unquenchable anger because they believe that the targeted parent has victimized them and whatever they do to protect the children is justified. [CHECK]

– They have a desire for the court to punish the other parent with court orders that would interfere or block the targeted parent from seeing the children. This confirms in the obsessed alienator’s mind that he or she was right all the time. [CHECK]

– The court’s authority does not intimidate them. [Judge DelRicci has actually endorsed and rewarded these behaviors without explanation.]

– The obsessed alienator believes in a higher cause, protecting the children at all cost. [CHECK]

– The obsessed alienator will probably not want to read what is on these pages because the content just makes them angrier. There are no effective treatment protocols that have been validated for either the obsessed alienator or the PAS children. [CHECK]

– The courts and mental health professionals are sincere in wanting to help these families but their efforts frequently fail. [ ???? ]

The best hope for children affected by an obsessed alienator is early identification of the symptoms and prevention. [IDENTIFIED JULY @2007] After the alienation is entrenched and the children become “true believers” in the parent’s cause, the children may be lost to the other parent for years to come. I realize this is a sad statement, but I have yet to find an effective intervention, by anyone, including the courts that can rehabilitate the alienating parent and child. There can still be hope in that spontaneous reunification can occur, usually in response to a crisis that causes the alienated child to reach out to the rejected parent.

Sara Goren indicated that she did not believe in parental alienation. She is a fool. A custody master would likely come into contact with this type of behavior on a regular basis. She ignores the symptoms. She hurts people. Sara Goren’s ‘beliefs’ and her considerable fraud represented in her reports obliterated my family.

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